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Take-away’s from 2016

Take-away’s from 2016:


  1. My body is my friend. Believing good things are happening in me in the midst of feeling ill is faith. It is part of the path to healing, which involves the spirit as much as the body (‘You are the Placebo’ is a good book)
  2. There are amazing people in this world, spreading cheer, love and light all around. I found in my most vulnerable places, full of need, I could see them (feel them) more clearly.
  3. Food is so awesome.(especially Krispy Kreme doughnuts).  Yes, eating is nourishment but also an avenue for connection and pleasure. We eat for more reasons than just staying alive. It’s a beautiful need/want see-saw that vacillates between our body and spirit.
  4. Sometimes we have dreams… and then we must grow to accommodate them.
  5. Menopause is cruel. BUT, menopause shows us where we are most vulnerable, then asks us to be ok with that. All that is left is the strength and beauty that was always there, just hidden.
  6. I am strong. And so are you. We are strong
  7. Friends can make difficult places easier and easy places meaningful.
  8. I think I believe in mental telepathy, or a cousin to that.
  9. We can be surrounded by people and feel alone. We can be alone and not feel lonely.
  10. A baby’s entrance into this world grounds us here into the tangible but simultaneously elevates us into intangible worlds of divine magical mystery. (Thank you, angel Lennon.)
  11. Watching a toddler allows us to see again that what we witness every day is a miracle. (I love my sweet Moses.)
  12. We all desire validation. We must accept it as a gift from God. It was never meant to come from others.
  13. Spouses can/do change. Spouses can reveal us to us.
  14. Nothing/no one can destroy love.It DOES win
  15. No one can steal us, unless we let them.
  16. Sometimes old horses help us believe more deeply.
  17. Las Vegas is emotionally loud.
  18. Pursuing that which fuels the soul makes time irrelevant.
  19. Everyone is relevant
  20. Spanish Moss in the trees make everything seem heavenly
  21. Eating bread (from Ingrained Bakery) on a park bench with my parents is special.
  22. Ask myself “how do I want to feel?” It will answer the “what should I be doing” questions.
  23. We are all so very much alike.
  24. This too shall pass (even elections)
  25. “What if” questions should be asked more frequently
  26. Ask more questions to those we don’t understand.
  27. RV living is an adventure. (plan winter in a warm place)
  28. Sometimes we need a nice neighbor late at night.
  29. Seeing a newborn calf can make us want to live on a farm.
  30. Zip-lining is really fun. do it.
  31. The “most” ______person we know, could be our child. (Teachers and inspire-ers are not always before us chronologically 😉 (ie. Brooke, Jake, Josh, Jordan, Natalie, Eli, Bethany)
  32. We are never too old to try.Never.
  33. If we listen, we hear.
  34. Unfortunately, tans fade and wrinkles last. 😉
  35. Life changes can happen anywhere because change starts within us. (the secret life of change)
  36. Never underestimate a full moon. It can take our breath away.
  37. Maybe growing old can be more about the “growing” and less about the “old”.
  38. The sand, water, shells and sky consistently deliver mystery and stability.
  39. A country song in all of it’s simplicity can reveal our human complexity.
  40. What we know doesn’t make us better.
  41. Sometimes a year ends before we feel “ready”
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We can hear “I Love You” in the strangest phrases

Message in a Bottle at Sunset

I love words. I do. But saying or writing words is not the whole equation. Hasn’t the texting world we live in taught us this? The truth is that the creation/delivery is intricately intertwined with the acceptance and understanding. We want our intention to be the end of the conversation. That sounds delightful. Absolving. And I agree there is beauty in our introspection, but we are called to a deeper commitment; a commitment to the receivers of our words.

Words (written or said), enter the space between us and then eventually falls like music on a page, rising, diving, but eventually landing-between our ears into our mind? Inside our chest to our heart? Does it hit the mark, or not? There is a divine exchange in motion.

There is often a choice.

As the receiver, we can accept words said, accept them as WE are, or accept them as THEY are?

Knowing someone gives us the privilege to believe the words and to accept that we are being invited into their circle, where our arms are clasped tightly in solidarity.  We may be deciphering strange and unfamiliar words, (or maybe hearing long forgotten words) but we must hear from that unseen place. We muddle through our own demons to accept undeclared intention. We release undesirable baggage, because we can. We accept what we think they truly mean. We can hear “I love you” in the strangest phrases.

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When He Speaks

davidWhen do you choose to speak the words that are in your heart ?  The words that are imbedded seeds just beginning to sprout?  Maybe voicing thoughts are the sunshine and water needed to bring the bloom? But we sometimes question timing, don’t we? We pause, just long enough to miss the open door. We think it through and hear the creaking of the door as it closes.

Have you ever watched the spark fly up from the bonfire? There is this magic moment when it’s bright and hot, ready and … then fleeting. So much like words, don’t you think?

He didn’t wait for a quiet, intimate, sunny moment to word-blossom. He let it out in the cold and wind. He spoke when words were stuck in his throat- clunky and rasp-whispered; when he still had questions.

When his thoughts were “I appreciate you, your laugh, your optimism”, he spoke.

When he looked at her and thought “I imagine you could feel down about this day not going as planned, but I see you are trying…You are so strong”, he let the words breathe fresh air.

When in the morning light he thought “You are my angel and I will always take care of you” and he thought ‘maybe this is what she needs to hear’, and he whispered it, he was right.

That’s exactly what she needed.