It seems our journey of loving others often begins as a gift to ourselves; for what it brings; how it validates; and how it meets our own needs of self-worth. But somewhere in the process, there is a choice to love based on a decision rather than feeling, when it is not about “getting” but about giving. This changes us, and we begin to love FOR the other person, wanting the best for them, embracing the necessary sacrifices. While being loved does change us, I wonder if choosing to love brings the greater transformation.